The familiar words of Jesus promise that “the truth shall set you free.” We addicts know a thing or two about this principle. Having hidden the truth from others (and ourselves), we are amazed by the freedom that comes when it is finally disclosed in the right way, to the right people.
I suppose martyrs also know a thing or two about it as well. We addicts may think that our truth-telling had a cost to it, as we risked job, marriages, friendships and the like. But martyrs have not only risked, but suffered, the loss of their very earthly lives.
This perspective helps me stay honest with my spouse. I really hope I do not ever have a relapse. But I know that honesty is the only way from here out. Marriage or no marriage, admitting the truth is the only way to live in freedom, and avoid the slavery of hiding.